Toxic Masculinity Recovery

Located in Bloomington, MN

We've all been affected by a narrow and  damaging definition of masculinity.

Maybe you grew up in a black-and-white culture about what it meant to be masculine or feminine and need healing, or maybe you're starting to recognize you don't want to do things the way past generations did. I help people recover from the effects of toxic gender roles and find new ways to be who they were meant to be.

I grew up as an athlete and an artist. Unfortunately, that combo meant I didn't really fit anywhere. Among the jocks, I was too sensitive. Among the creatives, I was too athletic. On and on. And when I got drafted to play semi-professional hockey, it only got worse. That duality was a key component in why I first sought therapy years ago. I was tired of feeling like I had to choose between parts of myself. 

If you, like me, want more for the next generation than men who expect a pat on the back for not being an a-hole, but you're not sure how to get there, I think I can help. 

Maybe you're straight; maybe you're gay; maybe you don't know. Maybe you're a man; maybe you're a woman; maybe you don't know; maybe that's changing. Regardless, if you've been hurt by, or been part of engendering, toxic masculinity, get in touch.

My Expertise

I believe that effective therapy involves the mind and body – the experiential and the cognitive – and focuses on the past, present, and future.

My style blends candor with warmth, insight with empathy, and humor with compassion. I enjoy quick-witted conversations, existential ponderings, and geeking out over just about anything.

My practice affirms non-binary and LGBTQ+ people and the profound impacts of intergenerational racial trauma.

Styles of Therapy 

There are certain types of therapy (called modalities) that are clear winners for specific disorders. For example, OCD should often be treated with exposure response prevention. 

At the same time, I believe that each person is unique and will enjoy certain styles more – and that may change as the person changes. I do my best to adjust when I can, while staying rooted in what I'm trained in.


I practice from an interpersonal stance. This means I focus a lot on our relational dynamics. 


I believe we all have strengths, and therapy too often only focuses on the problems. I do my best to help you identify and leverage your strengths to make changes. 


This focuses on the physical experience and helps those of us who are stuck in our heads get out of our heads. For people who often try to outthink their problems, this is a good antidote.

Internal Family Systems

Think "Inside Out" the movie. I use the concept of us having parts-that-make-a-whole to reintegrate old patterns and learn to better understand - and love - yourself. 

Narrative Therapy

This is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with a creative overlay. Much of my career has involved storytelling and creativity, so I naturally gravitated to this modality. It's considered "evidence-based" which means there is significant research supporting its effectiveness. 

Education & Licensure

I have a masters in psychotherapy and counseling from St. Mary's University of Minnesota. My supervisor is the wonderful Dr. Mary Wandrei, Ph.D., LP.

Process & Rates


  1. We start with a call and/or emails to see if we would be a good fit.
  2. If so, I send you a set of extensive forms/questionnaires to fill out.
  3. I do Zoom and in-person. We'll determine the best fit when we first speak.


  • Intake session for individual or family therapy: $275
  • Individual or family therapy session (50 minutes): $250
  • Individual therapy session (30 minutes): $125
  • Sliding Scale: I try to keep slots open for people who would benefit from my areas of specialty but who cannot afford it. This is limited, but please ask if you need it.

Private Pay

All services are private pay and are billed directly to you at the time of service.  I provide a superbill, which you can submit to your insurance for reimbursement for out-of-network services, but you'll need to check with your insurance provider to see if they will reimburse for out-of-network services.

Message Me

Message me with questions! I am happy to help if I can. I also offer free 15 minute phone consults.